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  A new urban legend

  by loosie in

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  i just got this in my email.

  has anyone heard this one yet?.

  this is an experience from andre' r_____, overseer, just back from the branch committee course at patterson: in england, one of our blind brothers had a seeing-eye dog that would faithfully guide and take him to the meetings each week.

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  cyberdyne systems 101

  I love the way that its obviously Jehovah that directed the dog!

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  Hi every one!

  by wifey in

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  i may not post much cause i'm really busy with work and raising 3 grandkids but some times see posts i would like to comment on.

  glad to meet all of you.. later, .

  wifey

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  cyberdyne systems 101

  Nice to see a new member, welcome

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  Do you think it`s hard to have a relationship after you leave?

  by dido in

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  i have been out for 4 years now, and find it hard to meet someone who i find is compatible.

  one of the reasons being is that they haven`t experienced what it is like to come out of a cult, and i find there is a void there.

  does anyone else feel like this?

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  In my experience, you need to find someone that can be patient with you as you learn to adapt to real life again, your descision making process will be impared and emotional development will be lower having had your life mapped out by someone else for so long.

  What helped me was a few things: 1. Time - the further away I got from the JW mentallity, the anger I had of it and so on the easier its been. 2. Research - I spent a good while looking at the Bible, the witness doctrines and my life. That enabled me to see where they (and therefore I) had gone wrong and why I felt the way I did. 3 Make today count - Take chances, make mistakes but above all learn from any experience thats happened to you. Try not to live in the past but dont regret what got you to this point either, its makes you who you are.

  I am currently in a relationship and sometimes I can't believe it, some of my old low self esteem creeps in and makes me think its too good to be true, but I know that everyone can offer a person something they want and need. If you can be kind, caring, loving, then there is simply no reason why you cant make another person happy is there. I guess you have to put yourself in places where people can meet and interact with you, and the old saying of dont be looking and it will find you might work.

  Wishing you a happy life

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  Judgement Day

  by LaCatolica in

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  *it is believed that everyone will get judged on judgement day...not as a group, but individually.

  why are jws so freakin' concerned with what any one person does with their lives?

  why do they care if one of its members "smells the coffee" and thinks for themselves?

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  cyberdyne systems 101

  
  This is one things that always bothers me and I often tell my family about it - that to be told what my christian conscience should be by someone else (the governing body, elders etc) is trying to take on their conscience not training my own, and will I be able to say on judgement day 'oh these people said what to do' , no i'll be looking round and realising there is no one behind me to back me up, its me thats being judged not me and all the witnesses together. If you believe in judgement day that is!

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  Is the WTBTS a Bully?

  by Joe Grundy in

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  i am not, and never have been, a jw.

  i spent my career (30 years) fighting bullies.

  is wtbts and its subsidiaries (not talking about individual jws here) a bullying organisation?.

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  Wow this is incredible, I have been just thinking about this myself! I have a close friend who has been verbally abused (considered more and longer lastingly harmful by many) and on doing some research on the subject, started to look at my relationship with the WTS and the similarities were striking. Although departed from this for some years now, I totally relate to the bullying tatics and constant putting down and reliance on them that has been mentioned here, i'm so glad that I eventually realised it was harming me and left. Sure its been a hard struggle to learn to live after the Watchtower, but its been so worth it.

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  Advice for non-JW please

  by Joe Grundy in

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  having visited this site on many occasions, and having been recommended to it, i am confident that it is a source of good advice from people who know about these things.

  i would be grateful for any advice you can offer me.. i have been an atheist for 20+ years, but before that was a non-conformist protestant with degrees of belief varying from acceptance to enthusiasm.

  my atheism resulted from research because of my (continuing) interest in the effects of religion.

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  cyberdyne systems 101

  Welcome to the forum.

  Contrary to the often given rule of being no part of the world and avoiding friendships with those in it, many JW's will be more than friendly to a neighbour. I doubt this would cause them any problems in the congregation as witnesses are supposed to be good neighbours themselves. I think it can only be a good thing to have open discussions with you.

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  Disfellowshipped but sister in the 'truth' to be married soon

  by cyberdyne systems 101 in

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  just wanted to start a topic on an event that will occur sometime later this year - namely my sister is to be married.

  she is a witness as is her boyfriend, none of his family are in but only myself and my dad are not (he has never joined) from my sister imediate family.

  so i was wondering what to expect, what experiences people here have had being someone who has left and then later been disfellowshipped, and then finding they might be invited to a witness wedding?

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  Its true there is no garantee that i'll get an invite at all, but she is close to me and made sure she rang me regarding her engagement before the majority of family knew, sounds as though it wont be my loss if I didnt go, really its only for her sake that i'd bother to attend

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  Disfellowshipped but sister in the 'truth' to be married soon

  by cyberdyne systems 101 in

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  just wanted to start a topic on an event that will occur sometime later this year - namely my sister is to be married.

  she is a witness as is her boyfriend, none of his family are in but only myself and my dad are not (he has never joined) from my sister imediate family.

  so i was wondering what to expect, what experiences people here have had being someone who has left and then later been disfellowshipped, and then finding they might be invited to a witness wedding?

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  Thanks for the replies, I now know that I deffinitely wont be invited to the reception, so its just the bit at the kingdom hall to endure lol. At least the point has been made that its something for the non JW relatives to witness how someone is shunned because they no longer want to be a witness.

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  Funeral experience...

  by Hecklerboy in

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  my uncle died last week so the wife and i went to his funeral a couple of days ago.

  he was a baptist so he actually had a nice funeral and they talked about him and what he like to do.

  the preacher even shared some memories of talking with him on the street of our small town and how happy he was, never complaining about his illness (cancer).. well my 2 brothers and my sister were there (all witnesses).

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  cyberdyne systems 101

  Good for you sticking up for the purpose of the funeral - to remember the deceased loved one. Who wants to go to a funeral to hear a sermon about how wonderful the witnesses interpretations are or a recruitment message at the end of it? Witnesses are so full of judgement on others, where's the love???

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  Disfellowshipped but sister in the 'truth' to be married soon

  by cyberdyne systems 101 in

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  just wanted to start a topic on an event that will occur sometime later this year - namely my sister is to be married.

  she is a witness as is her boyfriend, none of his family are in but only myself and my dad are not (he has never joined) from my sister imediate family.

  so i was wondering what to expect, what experiences people here have had being someone who has left and then later been disfellowshipped, and then finding they might be invited to a witness wedding?

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  cyberdyne systems 101

  Hi all,

  Just wanted to start a topic on an event that will occur sometime later this year - namely my sister is to be married. She is a witness as is her boyfriend, none of his family are in but only myself and my dad are not (he has never joined) from my sister imediate family. So I was wondering what to expect, what experiences people here have had being someone who has left and then later been disfellowshipped, and then finding they might be invited to a witness wedding? I can imagine wanting to chuck when listening to the wedding talk and being in that place, i'm guessing i'll not be invited to the reception though. My dad thinks its crazy he can go and people will talk to him but not me.

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